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Posted by Divya A L

Many of us, at some or the other point of time in life, would have encountered people who would have made an impact on us, be it positive or negative. There would have been people whom you would have admired, adored, envied, loved, liked, hated or simple made you say "Wish i was like him!!!". The simple reason behind this is the fact that we know what we are and what we aren't and what we would want to be. If someone happens to admire a person for something, it is because that "something" is missing in him. The initial 'admiration' can eventually take up different shapes. It may infringe the sense of jealousy, anguish in you for not being "like them", which is obviously not good, atleast that is what i feel.

In my opinion, every person is unique. It is more important to create his/her own identity rather than trying to imitate or rather "be like someone else". The desire to be like some else should be such that it only fine tunes your character and not transform it completely. Being an ingenuistic person is the need of the hour. Respect yourself for what you are and discover yourself to know more about what you can do to make a difference.

I've known many people especially those in love say things like "I can do anything for my loved ones!!!" But how much do they mean that. Why in the first place do they want to do that? Even though they do it, I am sure it won’t leave them satisfied unless it is an urge within them to do that “anything”. For instance, a person claims to have quit smoking/drinking on insistence of his partner. But for some reason if they were to depart, I bet this guy can beat any chain smoker in the town or become a Devdas Jr. It’s not only cheating your partner but also yourself. Living for someone else's sake is only transient and is of insignificant consequence.

Do things which ‘you’ feel is right. Be true to yourself and your conscious and definitely nothing can go wrong. Avoid making false promises, faking yourself to impress someone, being dramatic, manipulative etc. There are also instances where people pull others down to push themselves up. Remember life is a boomerang. You get back what you give. Never ever blame others for whatever happens. You are solely responsible for all your deeds. Don’t have a “tit-for-tat” attitude. At the end of the day, you must be justifiable and answerable to whatever you do. Though I had some really tough times in the past, I am happy to say that I have no guilt and regret for whatever that life has given me so far.

Always carry an attitude and not arrogance. There’s a very thin, hair-line difference I would say, between the two. Make sure you fall in the 1st category. Try being honest, sincere and transparent. When you say something, mean it. Try to be consistent in your behavior and that is what makes one reliable, trustworthy and dependable. When something goes wrong from your side intentionally or unintentionally, be ready to apologize/confess to whoever it is. Be grateful to people who have been there for you when you needed them most and make sure you will be there for them too. Co-operate but never compromise. Again, there is a very subtle difference between them. Being patient really helps (which I lack most) but ironically the very thought it makes me impatient :( It’s some of those minor things that make a major difference in life.

I just hate to hear people telling that “Life is a compromise”. No it is not. It only tells you are lazy or not very keen on getting what you want. Or sometimes it simply means that you don’t know what you want. Having said this, it is also true that one must be reasonable enough in his/her expectations.

Well, I do agree that this topic is debatable. However I just put out some of my views and opinions that I strongly believe in and have worked for me. Sounds like as though I am in a Gandhi-an Era, but let me tell you, it surely works. :)

I take this opportunity to thank all those precious people who have made a difference in my life.

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Struck a chord somewhere. Maybe I believe in all these things somewhere deep down. Excellent read!!

April 4, 2009 at 8:28 PM

@sreejith: Hmmm... :) Thanks :)

April 4, 2009 at 10:13 PM

Completely agree with u :), very well written.

May 9, 2009 at 9:28 AM

@sleeping Devil: Thank you!! :)

May 9, 2009 at 9:23 PM

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